Miscellany in Pics {Life is Good}

How about a little update inspired by some recent Instagram pics? Our life isn't particularly exciting but we are blessed with the sweet mundane of our domestic church. For example, I'm tapping out this post while sitting next to my toddler. She has pink eye, is holding her stuffed dog (Jehoshaphat), and is eating her probiotic supplement. Exciting stuff. But I wouldn't trade it....

Professor's first trip home from college seminary. I'll just let this pic tell the whole story. Nothing earth shattering happened during his short visit except that we remembered how much we love him aaand he got to see his baby brother's first tooth. We won't talk about how I broke down into tears as I hugged him goodbye again. 

Okay, I lied. We have been doing exciting things. Can you think of anything more exciting than a book sale??? Break out the Ergo carrier... mama has some shopping to do!

Creepy pic, I know. But it's that time of year again in which I pull all nighters prepping for All Saints' Day. That makes it much more fun, right? Because 40-year old mothers of 8 just love all nighters with yarn. If you are looking for a great DIY beard tutorial, check out this one: Dwarven yarn beard. I would have liked to use some fancy yarn to make a super authentic looking beard, but this white stuff? Was FREE. That is what I call easy decision making. 

My princess cowgirl. Oh, how this girl has stretched my understanding of my motherhood! For all of you parents out there struggling to know how to love your little tigers, I understand. I'm there. Lots of us are. Micaela posted about her struggle today and I've posted about our travel challenge HERE. Surviving and working on thriving. 

But I have to tell you in humility that I've been doing a lot wrong up to now with this one. I am a firm believer in attachment but I am not accustomed to a child with such a high need,  so I was pushing away instead of drawing near. I'm changing that, but with this girl, that means that I don't get much done at all. It means that I don't go out very often with or without the kids. It means moving a mattress onto the floor next to her so that when she wakes up every hour, she knows I'm there and we all actually sleep. It means a different way of life.

When I say yes to that strong need of hers, she is calm and happy. It's a worthwhile investment... for all of us. The picture above is an off day, when all the roses and lavender, and pink in the world can't seem to touch her needs. And it teaches me something... that those things are bandaids... because what she really needs is me. 

Behind the scenes, these boys are often accidentally lighting things on fire or debating football. It all comes together pretty beautifully though. Thanks be to God.

Look what we found on a recent trip to a sporting goods store! This boy is content wherever he is. I pray that he is able to sustain that throughout his life.

In other news not pictured...

  • Sign ups for the November group training session with Fit Catholic Mom are ending this weekend. I know you will be blessed. Please consider investing in your health and wellness. Check it out here: W.I.S.E Gals

You don't need to be perfect or in shape already to start... you just have to have the small flame of desire. I had a huge flare up of health symptoms recently and I was still able to hobble through with Rebecca's encouragement. It's not about physical perfection... it's about giving all to God. In gratitude. In joy. I do hope to see you there.

  • There are some tickets left for the 2017 Arise Retreat with Fr. Nathan Cromly. I attended last year and my soul was just blown up. That sounds bad but it was all good. Read about it here. Pray about attending? It is not free but is worth every penny. More info here: Arise 2017
Posted on October 28, 2016 .

The Truth About the Internet {From a Teen's Perspective}

My first kid graduated from our homeschool this past Spring and is now at "home" in a college seminary 10 hours away. Before he left, I was curious... 

Well? How did it go? I mean... how did we do, son? Did your Dad and I completely miss the mark on anything? Or... at least did we not completely miss the mark on all things?"

That was my version of an exit interview and I peppered him with detailed questions. After all, there are 7 other kids after him. If I screwed up badly with him, I want to know so that I can fix it. I know that an 18-year old won't have all those answers but there were some questions that I knew he'd be able to help with. 

Up first? THE INTERNET. Tell me what you know, boy, and make it snappy. I have lots of little souls to love and technology is a beast. These were the conditions for answering:

  • There would be no negative repercussions for fully honest answers.
  • Your audience is mostly adult Christian men, women, and clergy.

So... here is my brief interview with my (then) 18-year old graduating homeschool high school senior:


I did not fully understand the dangers of the internet when I was young, probably because I didn't grow up in a time with wifi or tablets or smartphones. Therefore, when I did become exposed to new technology, it took me longer to learn their true capabilities. Unfortunately, kids growing up post-2010 (after the invasion of the iPad) do not have the same lack of familiarity with tech; my 3-year old sister has basic knowledge of tablets that surpasses that of my grandmother.


Of course, this question can only answered in retrospect. Hindsight is 20/20! Yet, I would say:

  • Failing to monitor bedtime/nighttime internet usage, and
  • Providing inadequate control on devices due to lack of technical knowledge


Speaking as a teen, unless mom or dad works as a computer professional, the kids almost always know more about the hidden settings and capabilities of an iPad or phone than the parents. It's easy to convince mom that she's secured the device or that the internet is effectively blocked or that Bobby's new app is benign. Parents: never assume you know more than your child. Believe me. 


Simply put, the abundance of portals that exist make it difficult to monitor. As a parent, you likely have thousands of details in your brain, so much minutiae to keep track of, that one little electronic device often goes unnoticed. If a thing doesn't exist to the mind, it's dreadfully easy to hide. If you're trying to internet-proof your home, make a literal list of every internet capable device in the house and be able to account for their whereabouts at all times (and the whereabouts of the charger -- almost more important!!).

Aren’t sure if a device is childproof or even internet-capable? Find out. Educate yourself. Technology isn’t that hard to understand if you want to.

P.S. In addition, portals can be found outside the home in the form of friends. This is one area that my parents have not made many mistakes with me. The solution is, truly, to curate your child’s friends list. Sound harsh? I’m a survivor; trust me, your kid will live: they might even thrive. But this is a topic for someone else to write about.


This questions sort of flows with the next... so I’ll try to combine the answers.


As a parent, I would probably allow any children above these ages to own a piece of technology, with two caveats:

  1. The device in question did not have cellular connectivity (e.g. no smartphones or 3G/4G/5G enabled tablets)

  2. The device was prepared in advance by me, with all necessary parental controls enabled

There were more questions but the kid had stuff to do and I let him off the hook. What he said was sufficient. I know very well how I screwed up with technology and I'm constantly trying to manage it in the home. Open the door... slam the door... open the door... stick a toe out... get it stepped on... pull back. I can't tell you how much I detest the internet and it's prominent place in my life and in culture. 

But it is what it is, as they say. And it takes some maturity, savvy, and a whole lot of humility to manage it. I appreciate my son's honesty and his ongoing support when I text him at odd hours with tech questions.

To round off this post, I just want to post an honest warning to all parents (originally posted on my FB page)...

A reminder for all parents whose kids have access to the internet in any way...

Even kids who don't go seeking porn online will likely eventually run into it. It is harmful to all people but especially to children. Your filters may or may not work. These are some ways in which porn can reach your kids even if you have filters:

1. Email links or content. Children are much more likely to fall prey to commands telling them to "click here" than an adult who recognizes spam. Images may also be in the email content itself.

2. YouTube. Porn can and does pop up even among innocent videos. The Youtube screening process is insufficient and porn pushers are crafty and aggressive. They want your kids hooked. Today.

3. Pop-up ads. Scenario: Kid tries to click the little X to close a random advertising pop-up while playing innocent video games and is taken to a graphic porn site.

4. Amazon Prime videos.

5. Amazon ebooks. Some erotic reading material is available for free on Amazon. While it may not be considered porn in a strict sense, it is horrible in its own way.

6. Netflix.

7. iTunes.

8. Google. It takes two seconds to access anything you want including photos, video, and erotic novels.

9. Facebook. The filters aren't fast enough on social media sites and hackers happen. Many of us know that firsthand.

10. Instagram. 

11. Twitter.

12. Pinterest.

13. Innocent looking apps.

I don't want to be discouraging, only alert those of you who may have a false sense of security. The internet is a dangerous place for minds and souls, young and old. Be vigilant. Don't be afraid to talk to your children about the proper context for and beauty of sexuality. And be ready to extend the hand of mercy, support, and healing.

St. Michael, pray for us.

Posted on October 19, 2016 and filed under Culture, Family Life, parenting.

All Saints' Day Prep and links

I was smack in the middle of first trimester sickness during All Saint's prep and festivities last year so I never posted pics here. Better late than never! Since I had accidentally thrown out or given away (we don't know which) 15 years of handmade costumes the year before, 2015 was my year to energetically begin again. But... pregnancy happens! All things considered, I thought we did pretty well. 

I don't know what we're doing for costumes this year yet but I see an active sewing machine in my future. Thanks be to God for great feast days, all nighters, and family memories!

Also, I've included a few links (at the bottom of this post) to previous articles on All Saints', All Souls', Hallow'een, and how our Catholic family approaches that collision of the secular and sacred. 

Okay, so... Our slightly belated 2015 crew of saints...

From left to right...

St. Olaf: Store bought viking costume because I was desperate. He paid half.

St. Bathilde: Ebay find. $15

St. Lucy: Ebay white dress with sewn in sash. Handmade felt crown. I will hopefully have a crown tutorial on the blog soon.

St. Philomena: Hand-me-down dress. Crown from this sweet kit she got for her birthday. Anchor courtesy of duct tape and a shipment of large styrofoam sheets which I did not order but which Amazon said I could keep.

St. Maria Goretti: Goodwill linen dress and eyelet petticoat. Hand-me-down shawl. Wood dagger made by brother.

St. Michael: Store bought king costume purchased in a previous year. Wings (yes, they are black... that's all that's left on the shelves on October 30th) from a local Walmart.

St. Thomas Aquinas: Sewn the previous year by me. Pics of full costume with cape at the link and in the thumbnails below. 

Click on pics to enlarge...

We also had an All Saints' Day party of which I have zero pictures except one of our treat bags. Thanks to Jessica at Shower of Roses for the tag inspiration! 

More posts from this blog about All Saints' Day, All Souls' Day, and Hallow'een below...

Posted on October 11, 2016 and filed under All Saints' Day, Family Life, Liturgical Year.