Accountability needed. Please Advise...UPDATED

Yesterday, I posted some thoughts regarding the new editor at Catholic Digest and some comments/posts on the blogosphere that were related. My intentions and words were seriously misunderstood by some and although I thought I was clear, I obviously was not.

The dilemma is whether or not to remove the post. That particular action won't remove it from the internet (Google Reader apparently lives forever) and it won't clear up any harm that has been done. What I've decided to do for today is to leave it up (with the relevant comments) and ask for input from any readers who might be able to advise. This is also important because many have already read the post. Addressing it (as opposed to erasing it) is the only way to clear up any confusion.

To sum up: I wrote a post commenting on one woman's critical view of Danielle Bean's busy lifestyle. I wrote that I think it is between Danielle and God and her family... but that I can understand how a mother in a similar position would find it difficult to handle such a lifestyle. Specifically, I wrote that I would find it a problem for my specific situation. That was not a judgement on Danielle, only an observation about my own limitations.

At any rate, I have offended some good people in the process. I clearly need an editor. One of the primary things that I write about on my blog is my vocation. Many of you who read what I write know that my writings reflect a work in process as I try to figure out my role. This was one of those posts. Perhaps I should have kept it to myself.

I have consulted one individual I highly respect and was told that there was no lack of charity in what I wrote. But when someone writes to defend their wife... I have to think I missed the mark.

As with all written things, perhaps my tone was misunderstood. I would appreciate the input of all of you who help keep me accountable. I would specifically like to know if the post is too confusing and leads people to the wrong conclusion. Please feel free to leave a comment or to contact me personally via email.

My most sincere apologies for the misunderstanding and any offense. Lord, have mercy.


I want to express my gratitude to all of you who took the time to offer your encouragement, wisdom and insights both publicly and privately. God has, once again, taken a challenging moment and made it one of  grace. Positive or critical comments alike... you took the time at my request and I thank you.

Also, just for the record...
I don't think it's objectively wrong for a homeschooling mother to hold a professional position. God can call us to whatever He likes. That's not what I wrote or why I wrote.

Thanks again to all. I am grateful for every word and prayer. Every single one.

Posted on November 30, 2011 .