The change for me practically speaking is that when I hear words spoken (or read them), I am more inclined to think about the literal meaning first, rather than trying to interpret according to my emotional state. For example...
We've had a rough day and didn't get much accomplished. Husband walks in the door and asks where his slippers are. We fly into a rage because, through our self-focused lens, we interpret "You lost my slippers you lazy, incompetent wife." In reality, he loves us, respects us, treats us kindly.... and all he really wants to know is where his slippers are.
Ever done that? Nah... I haven't either.
Last night, we attended Mass as a family. Peaches screamed in the car on the way and I got a cheerful I told you so from Chief. I frowned. She also cried when we got to church, outside the church as I walked her around the building a few times, and up and down the sidewalk. Then she cried all the way home.
Yes, dear husband, the baby cries a bit. I concede.
You don't have to. You can do what you want. Be pro-life that day in whatever way you fit best. I assume that goes without saying with these special days and events and theme parties, but I know misunderstanding is easy. I upset someone by promoting this event because it is on the same day as another pro-life day: The National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Day. The feeling was that by promoting one, I was undermining or disrespecting the other.
But Pro-Life is not a cause. It is not a group. It is not a political machine. It does not demand that we hold up a sign on this day for this period of time. It is an obligation of love for all Christians and we are called in unique ways and speak to the beauty and sacredness of life every day of our lives. Sometimes, we are called to stick together and take a stand against injustice and often times we should...
On Tuesday, I will be doing just that. I think bringing awareness to the horror and injustice of abortion is one of the best ways that I can honor the life of the child that I lost. On social media and here on this blog, I will be speaking out with red tape. I will also be personally recognizing loss that day and praying for the children and their grieving families.
This is a topic that is confusing because hardly anyone bucks the social trends these days. Our teens get sucked in. We get sucked in. And trying to walk counter-culturally is someone very few people understand or honor.
Lena from Joyfilled Family shared a link on Facebook to a priest preaching on dating. It's only 20 minutes and really worth a listen. Hang in there and listen to the whole thing. The points are very interesting and worth reflecting on. Occasions of Sin and Company Keeping
If you do give your opinion, please be advised that your opinion won't matter to Jellybean in the least.
I've done this and looked back later a little (actually a lot) red-faced when I realized that my comment was not only irrelevant but just plain stupid. It comes from the human tendency to look at everything through our self-centered glasses. We like our thoughts and want to share them. We start reading about a subject and instead of being attentive to the writer's words, we immediately begin to apply our experiences and opinions without giving the writer a chance to "speak" first. If these were face-to-face conversations, the equivalent behavior would be frequent interruptions, looking about at other things, and only catching some of the speaker's words. In other words, rude.
Many online scuffles could be avoided if commenters (including me) would simply read carefully, read a second time, then say a prayer before actually commenting. If I could go back to all the comments I've ever written, I'm sure I'd simply eliminate at least a quarter of them for being too self-focused or just plain dumb.
A side note (because it's too lovely not to share): Last night, when she was supposed to be in bed, my 6-year old came downstairs (for the 7th time) to show us the boo boo on her toe. As she was skipping in she said, "Cookie just told us that she's happy because she can tell mommy anything." Hello happy mama.
Linking up with Jen at Conversion Diary for 7 Quick Takes Friday.